Estate Executors: The Job No One Explains (Until It’s Too Late)

Most people name an executor and move on.
Few understand what they’ve actually asked that person to do.

An estate executor is responsible for carrying out your wishes after death. It’s an important role—and often a heavy one.

An executor may be responsible for:

  • Locating and filing legal documents

  • Managing bank accounts and paying bills

  • Coordinating with attorneys, accountants, and courts

  • Handling property, personal items, and distributions

  • Communicating with family (sometimes during conflict)

This is not an honorary title. It’s a job. What To Do After Someone Dies | National Institute on Aging

One of the biggest mistakes people make

They appoint an executor… without ever asking.

Being named in documents doesn’t mean someone is willing, able, or emotionally prepared to take on the role. Some people feel honored. Others feel trapped—but say nothing.

It is always better to ask than to tell.

How to choose the right executor

Ask yourself:

  • Is this person organized and detail-oriented?

  • Can they handle paperwork, deadlines, and stress?

  • Are they emotionally steady—and able to say no?

  • Do they live nearby or have reliable access to records?

The “oldest child” or “closest relative” is not automatically the best choice. (Choosing the right person for legal and medical decisions matters just as much. Learn more about selecting a health care proxy or medical power of attorney.)

Can you change an executor?

Yes. And you should if:

  • Your relationship has changed

  • The person has moved, become ill, or is overwhelmed

  • Your estate has become more complex

  • You simply realize they’re no longer the right fit

Executors can be changed by updating your estate documents—no drama required, just proper paperwork.

When should you set up an estate plan?

  • When you turn 18

  • When you have assets, children, or responsibilities

  • After major life changes (marriage, divorce, moves, deaths)

  • And yes—if it’s been more than a few years since your last update

  • An outdated plan can be just as problematic as no plan at all.

What you can do now to make it easier later

  • Your executor’s job is much easier if you:

  • Keep documents organized and accessible

  • Maintain a current list of accounts, policies, and passwords

  • Clearly document your wishes (and update them)

  • Tell your executor they’ve been named—and what that means

  • Review beneficiary designations regularly

  • Unclear instructions don’t just slow things down—they create family tension.

If you’re thinking:

  • “I named someone years ago—should I revisit this?”

  • “I’m not sure my executor could actually do this”

  • “I want to make this easier on the people I love”

👉 Ask the Advocate
A short conversation now can prevent confusion, conflict, and costly mistakes later.

Stay confident. Stay informed. Stay Taylormade.

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